My Crazy Thanksgiving Gift to You

Today, the USA is celebrating Thanksgiving and if you’ve been following me for a while you will know that I constantly talk about the power of gratitude and thanksgiving.  Check out my blog here

So I’m going to keep this short and sweet today…

I would like give you an awesome gift

You know about my Ignite Your Life Program and today I am offering the PREMIUM version to you at no charge! 


Because, I am grateful for all my many blessing and because it fills my heart with joy. Simple.

But please note:

This gift is NOT for you if you are:

  • mildly curious about the contents,
  • like downloading free gifts off the Internet,
  • are thinking “what the hell do I have to lose?”
  • have no intention of DOING THE WORK



Well, because you’re not the right person for this gift, and I don’t want you to waste your time or mine. Simple.

If You Are:

  • Feeling stuck in a rut
  • Wanting to create clarity in your life
  • Committed to making changes that will help you create more joy and abundance in your life
  • Are prepared to WORK ON YOURSELF

Then this gift is definitely for you!

About the Contents

This is an on-line course that helps you focus on the areas of your life that are important to you… be it your Career, Money, Relationships, Health, Personal Development, Spirituality etc.  More info here

You get to look at the areas where you want to create more joy, fulfillment and abundance and there are

  • Teaching Videos
  • Printable Workbooks
  • Fun and Informative Assessments
  • Guided Meditations
  • You work at your own pace.  Please note the VERB! 

BUT, as I am offering you the PREMIUM VERSION in addition you receive

  • Access to a closed Facebook Group consisting of the Ignite Your Life Community
  • AND three (3) One-on-One Coaching Sessions with me to help guide you on your journey.

The monetary value of this gift is $397
The intrinsic value of this course is … INVALUABLE and life changing

Where’s the Catch?

There is none!





This is my THANKSGIVING GIFT to you! 

So if you believe that this is a gift you will USE in order to IGNITE YOUR LIFE  and CREATE THE LIFE YOU DESIRE, please download your free gift here.

This is a limited offer until 25th November 2016 @ 23:59 HAST – THIS OFFER HAS EXPIRED

So, if this gift resonates with you and you are committed to creating your best life please download your gift today.

Wishing you a blessed and joyful thanksgiving, wherever you are in the world

Love and Light


How to Transform Your Life Using the Life Alignment Wheel

I developed the Life Alignment Wheel based on the Wheel of Life, which is great and effective tool for helping you find more balance and success in your life.  In my own experience with the Wheel of Life, I found there were one or two basic conditions that were missing when completing this exercise.

I am yet to meet a person who is consistently and constantly perfectly balanced in their life.  As human beings, for various reasons, we become imbalanced, lose our way, let go of the things that are important to us.

Some of us live our lives according to other people’s expectations or we never truly connect deeply with ourselves to know what is intrinsically important to us.

The Perfect Life

When using the Wheel of Life many coaches encourage their clients to have a wheel that is round, operating at a perfect 10 in all areas of their lives as the graphic shows but is this life or is this perfection?

The “Perfect” Life

The Real Life

I don’t know about you, but at times my life is more like a deflated tire with patches and punctures than a perfect ten with five gold stars.

What do you do when you’re striving for a perfect ten but in fact you just don’t give a damn about a specific area of life, be it money, career, or fun for example.  Does this mean that you strive to be “good” in an area that is of no interest to you? Or do you give up feeling like a failure in your own life?

Making the Life Alignment Wheel Work for You

For those of you who are familiar with my work, or follow me on Facebook you will know that I am always encouraging my clients and followers to live your life! step into you! Know, Speak, Live Your Truth.

None of us can do this when we don’t know ourselves or what is valuable to us.

Let’s assume that you’ve downloaded and completed your life alignment wheel.  If you have been feeling imbalanced in your life, or have a feeling of dissatisfaction or unhappiness about your life, do not become disillusioned now that you have completed your evaluation.

Instead, use it in the same way that Chuck and Mary did to transform their lives.  Let’s look at how they did that.


We know that Chuck hated his job and was really battling to make ends meet for him and his family.  You can see that his life alignment wheel confirmed how he was feeling.  However while he felt like his whole life was in a mess, this was not 100% true as there were quite a few areas that were working well for him.

Completing the life alignment wheel helped to highlight the areas that needed attention but also showed him everything was not hopeless, as he had been telling himself.

Likewise, Mary had a job she was good at and plenty of money but she felt as if stress was killing her.  Her job and financial independence had always been crucial to her but now she realised that her growing dissatisfaction was caused by something else.

Her priorities had changed.  In fact so had Chuck’s.  But neither of them had been paying attention to this.

While they had been paying attention to external motivators, they had lost sight of their internal motivators namely their values.


Bringing it all together

The first thing both Chuck and Mary did was make a commitment to themselves.  They realised that they were not living their lives in accordance with their own desires and ideals.  More importantly, they realised that they had lost touch with who they really were and who they wanted to be.

They knew that if they continued doing the same thing the results would be the same, so they chose change.

Change is never easy, especially when we are stuck in a rut or used to our own excuses, but the when the desire to live a meaningful, purpose driven life is greater than the need to remain stuck we are compelled to move towards our desires.

Chuck and Mary realised that they could go it alone, but this wasn’t their first rodeo.  When they had previously tried to implement life changes, what began with great intentions fell by the wayside because of distractions and life challenges.

It was through discovering the secret that brought it all together that they were able to bring about the permanent changes they both longed for.

Having this great life alignment wheel as a tool and discovering the secret that brought it all together, Chuck and Mary realised that they had nothing to lose by the investing in the Ignite Your Life Program.

Ask yourself what do you have to lose?

Check out the Ignite Your Life Program today and gain access to the ‘whole life’ tools to ignite your inner spark and get your life moving in the direction you desire!

Ignite Your Life


Rid Your Life of Toxic Friends

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When I awoke that morning, I had a wonderful message on my Facebook page from my very dear friend Shona.  She had written to me in response to a video that I posted the previous week when my page hit 5000 followers.  She said, “Definitely a calling. Just needed something to jolt you. Amazing how happy and relaxed you come across in these videos. Makes we try to calm my hectic rushed life down a bit. You found your niche and it is such a privilege to have seen this transformation.”  I was simply filled with such joy to receive such encouragement from such a dear friend.

Her message reminded me of something that happened a year previously.  I had walked a major pilgrimage across Spain (Camino de Santiago) and I was working through some issues in my life and healing from a very damaging situation that had occurred in my workplace.  Half way through my pilgrimage, I reached the major conclusion that I actually wanted to work for myself. I wanted to start my coaching business and get on living my life’s purpose and living my dream.

Of course, I was scared; in fact, I was scared shitless!

Enter My Toxic Friend

I spoke to a friend about this, somebody that I’d known most of my life and she told me how she didn’t appreciate some things about me as a friend.  I considered what she said and found there was some truth to it. In a follow-up conversation we spoke about getting my business off the ground. As the conversation ended, she said something to me which was like a knife in my heart.

She said,

I don’t think you’re ready for this because you haven’t got your shit together

and I was like, “HUH? What the hell are you talking about?”

Now, this is somebody that I really admired, appreciated, and I valued her opinion. I replied with, “Well, nobody ever has their shit together when they start a business. It’s a rollercoaster, you know?”

In life, none of us has our shit together most of the time. We just simply get on with living and allow life to unfold.

But that judgement was…it was crucial to me, as I was feeling insecure about my decision. I was feeling scared about this whole new pathway that I was now going to walk on and these words were crushing as they were said with intent!

I went and mulled over this conversation and I can’t begin to express how deeply it hurt me.  The worst thing was it came from somebody who I really respected and cared about.

I began reviewing our friendship and I realised that person didn’t have my best interests at heart and perhaps this was so for quite a long time.  I also realised that they were not seeing me for who I really am, who I have become.

Exit My Toxic Friend

I made a very critical decision. I decided that was it and I was done with that friendship. I never said it, I never told the person, “Listen, yeah, fuck off, okay?” I simply decided, “You know what, you’re not adding any value to my life so I don’t want you in my life anymore.”

To be honest I worked through 2 or 3 months of forgiveness towards her, and I noticed those words also spurred me on because I realised, she did not know me. She did not appreciate me or the fact that I do have my shit together because I’m following my dream. I’m listening to my life purpose, I’m doing what I should be doing – that to me is a sure sign of finally getting my shit together!

How many times in life don’t we have relationships or people around us that actually add no value to our lives? There may have been a point where they do but then things change and they no longer appreciate us for who we are and they no longer have our best interests at heart.

Coming back my friend, Shona.  I am so blessed to have her in my life!  She sticks to me like glue even when thousands of kilometers separate us.  I can go to Shona and she remembers things about my life that I’ve forgotten.  She builds me up, pushes me forward and she encourages me. I can only hope that I do the same for her. We all deserve friends that really believe the very, very best in us. They see us for who we really are even when we can’t see ourselves for who we really are.

When we have people in our lives that don’t appreciate or value us, we need to let go of sentimentality and release them.  We do ourselves no favours when we hold onto toxic friends who have reached their expiry date.

I’ve done that so much in my life; held onto toxic friends for various reasons but not once has this brought me any joy or happiness.  In fact just the opposite!

Audit Your Toxic Friendships

Do yourself a favour and audit your friendships.  Look if you have toxic friends around you who neither have your best interests at heart or bring your life any value.  It’s time to do some house cleaning.  If you have people around you that appreciate you for who you really are, whom you can be sweaty and smelly around, that you can fall to pieces with and they will help to build you back up; build on those relationships.

If you don’t know what toxic friend look like they are the ones who criticize you, are not happy for your successes, don’t help you get up when you’re down.  You will feel inadequate and possibly even lonely around them.  Is it worth it to keep these people around?  Really worth it?

Love the Ones You’re With

Your true friends, like my friend Shona, will see the very best in you when you don’t, they will believe in you, encourage you, push you on, help you up and they stand on the sidelines and cheer for you as you cross the finish line.

If you have friends in your life of this calibre then, hell, you better be doing the same for them because they also deserve the best friend in you.

So, guys, don’t worry about getting your shit together just be yourself, have people around you that really believe in you, and just go out and love them. Love them all that you have.[/fusion_text]

Your Intuition… Let It Work for You

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That’s Life

As with everything in life, to have a strong, healthy intuition you actually have to practice using it. If you want to run a marathon, you would have to train. You would have to create a regime that readies your body and mind for the marathon and then you would need to run the race.

Exactly the same principle applies if we want to have a strong intuition that can aid us in our daily lives.  We have to tone and build the muscle of intuition and exercise it.  By learning to become accustomed to and pay attention and trust your intuition, you learn to trust yourself and strengthen your self-worth and confidence.

My Lesson

Recently I learned a good lesson about using my intuition. I was part of a group on Facebook and I was not feeling comfortable about the shared content in the group.  There was absolutely nothing wrong with this group, in fact it’s a fantastic group filled with really lovely people, many of whom I’ve met, but I was just not gelling with some of the common philosophies that were shared.  Once again, these philosophies are not wrong, nor crucial to my life, nor would they lead me astray but they just did not feel comfortable for me.

I considered leaving the group for the longest time but I kept putting it off and procrastinating.  Then I saw a post and I thought, “Nah, I just don’t agree with this!”  I wrote a response and I said, “I don’t get what you’re saying…” and the person whose comment it was replied to which I again said, “I just don’t get what you’re saying.”

Their response to me was that I had been “triggered” by their comments and that perhaps I needed to look at something within myself.  People in the coaching circles overuse the term triggered. If anyone seems to have a contrary opinion to yours, or does not seem to be going along with your norm, then they are triggered. 

Well I put their comment in my pipe and smoked it, so to speak.  I wondered if this were true, and I realised, yes, I had been, but actually, it was not by what was said. I was triggered because I knew that the group was not a good fit for me and I needed to leave.  For the longest time I had a little voice in the back of my head saying, “Just unsubscribe from this group, it’s not bringing you much value, and you feel constantly pissed off here.”

You know, this example is about such a small little thing but it is often the small little things that steal our happiness and joy.

When your intuition speaks and you do not listen, it is like walking for miles and miles with a tiny little stone in your shoe and not taking it out.

Instead of dealing with it, you ignore the obvious and end up with a terrible blister and aching feet.

Often, this is what happens when we do not listen to our intuition, when we do not pay attention to what our intuition is telling us to do for ourselves.

The example I shared with you is a very simple one, but I can tell you so many stories where listening to my intuition has brought me opportunities, delivered me from danger and even helped me save someone’s life!  On the other hand, I can also tell you of all the times I have ignored my intuition and lived to rue that decision!

Our Simple Choice

There are many reasons why we do not listen to our intuition, one of them being reason.  You know that little thing called thought or common sense.  Very often, the things we feel intuitively sometimes seem to go against reason.  We doubt it and want to listen to our rational mind but the part of us in which our intuition operates is not “rational.”  I think it is deeply connected to our soul or spirit and is often non-quantifiable.

Additionally, our intuition is there to serve us as individuals.  What you intuitively feel about a situation might not be the same as what another person feels.  This is your inner guiding system, which is uniquely yours, and I encourage you to connect to this part of yourself intimately.

The Challenge

Think of one simple way in which you can exercise your intuition muscle and strengthen it each day.  If you do rely on your intuition daily, think of ways in which you can connect more deeply with your intuition.  Remember this is your special weapon in the arsenal of your life, use it often and use it wisely!

I would love to know how you listen to your intuition or how it has guided you in your life, so please feel free to drop a comment below.[/fusion_text]

5 Lessons I Want To Thank My Parents For Teaching Me

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The Basics My Parents Taught Me

Yes, believe it or not we do need some basic training.  Developing into a worthwhile human being doesn’t occur through osmosis or a sprinkling of fairy dust as we sleep!

I am grateful that my parents taught me how to dress myself, brush my hair and teeth, tie my shoelaces, and tell the time.  They instructed me in the proper way to set a dinner table and eat at it, how to make my bed and operate a washing machine.  Not only did they teach me basic everyday chores that they expected me to participate in, they also taught me basic human behaviour.  My parents taught me how to say please and thank you, how to respect my elders and those around me, how to engage with others socially through kindness and compassion.

They did not leave these things up to chance but were actively engaged parents, ensuring that I understood what normal acceptable social behaviour was.  Therefore seeing as they got the basics right they also gave me a foundation upon which I could build my life.

Being very different characters, I learnt different lessons from each of them.  Here are the major lessons my mom taught me.

Actions have consequences, take responsibility for them

If my mother told me not to do something she always explained the consequence if I did.  It wasn’t until my twelfth birthday that I fully grasped the meaning of this and actively applied this principle in my young life.

In some ways, I had a rather sheltered upbringing and it wasn’t until around my twelfth birthday that I learnt to ride a bicycle.  We were living in a new neighbourhood, all the kids around me had bikes, and I had no clue how to ride one.  Motivated by her own fear my mother forbade me from riding a bike but of course, I disobeyed her, what was she thinking.

When she told me not to get on the bike, she warned me that if I injured myself I should not come home asking her for help.  That didn’t stop me and as a novice, I alighted an expensive racing bike and immediately injured myself.  My foot slipped backwards off the pedal and I cut my ankle joint open on the derailleur.  Blood spurting everywhere I immediately knew that I needed stiches.  While all the kids were running around, I wrapped my foot in a towel and walked half a kilometre to the doctor.

I did not go home, although I did walk past my house, but went straight to the doctor for assistance.  Of course, the receptionist was horrified to see my blood covered foot and that I was without adult supervision but I knew that I had quite literally created my own mess and needed to take responsibility and find a solution.

While you may be thinking that my mother was a monster, actually she was my greatest teacher.  I knew where her boundaries were and I had crossed them.  I could have run home covered in blood and crying and I know she would have helped me after giving me a massive dressing down, but this experience truly taught me that I could be resourceful when taking responsibility for my mess and I could find a way through and out of my troubles.

Get back up again

My mom also taught me resilience, how to get back up again.  She herself was a very resilient woman and I learned from her example, but there were numerous times in my life when I faced disappointment, trauma, or tragedy that she helped me get back up again.

One such time was after completing high school.  I never received a bursary to attend the university of my choice and my parents could not afford the tuition.  For weeks, I felt devastated, and lay around the house like an amoeba without a plan.  While both my parents comforted and consoled me, my mother forced me out of bed in the morning and into thinking about alternatives.  When I started making excuses about why alternatives were unacceptable, she refused to accept them.  She would not allow me to wallow in my own self-pity and misery, but rather taught me how to get back up again, wipe myself off and to make the best of all situations.

It was due to her tenacity and refusal to let me wallow that I went onto study something completely different allowing me to have an international career and live all over the world.

Wipe the dust off your feet and leave that place

My mom seemed to understand my need to cling to situations, circumstances, people, and things.  From a young age, she would always say to me, “Angie my girl, wipe the dust off your feet and leave that place.”

She was teaching me to know when I was done with something or when it was done with me!  When a situation, relationship or behaviour no longer served my best interests I was to leave everything associated with it (the dust) and leave that place (move on, let go).

This is the greatest lesson my mom taught me.  Even now eleven years after her passing, when I feel stuck and unable to move forward I often hear her voice saying to me, “Angie my girl, wipe the dust off your feet and leave that place” and I know it is time to surrender it to the universe, let it go and move on.  Thank you Mom!

Lessons I want to thank my dad for teaching me.

Work for what you want and don’t take things for granted

My dad was a humble man who was neither rich nor famous.  In fact, he did not like the limelight and was very happy to serve others in the background.  Growing up, there were times I had to go without because my parents could not afford to buy me what all the other kids had.  I remember really wanting a game as a teenager and getting the sulks about it because my dad said he had no money.  Instead of letting me stomp around like a sulky, sullen teenager, he challenged me to do something about it and to work for what I wanted.

I asked my neighbours if they had chores that needed doing and then I looked for a weekend job at a local supermarket.  Gaining some financial independence taught me to value the things I worked for and not to take them for granted.  This challenge from my dad instilled a work ethic within me that helped me understand that wanting and expecting handouts were not in my best interests.  It also instilled within me the self-confidence I needed to face challenges and pursue my dreams.

Laugh and don’t take things so seriously

My dad had a quirky offbeat sense of humour, and would always find the funny side to any situation.  He My dad taught me how to laugh at myself and I could always rely on him to show me how not to take things so seriously.  There were many times growing up when I would be literally crying on his shoulder and he would point out something that was funny, either within my situation or in my surroundings.  This truly taught me not to sweat the small stuff because all things change.

Today I look back and smile, filled with love and gratitude for the lessons my parents taught me.  These five lessons have been the foundation and mainstay to my life and I am grateful that I had them as guides to help my development.

What lessons would you like to thank your parents for teaching you?  Drop a comment and let us know.[/fusion_text]

I Am Human, I Am Love [Pulse]

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I am human, I am love. Everybody’s got a pulse.

I am done with all the noise.

The thousands of opposing opinions all screaming to be heard in order to proclaim themselves the one true word.

I am done with the hatred that hides behind the words and causes.  I am done with shouting other people down, even if it’s silently in my head, because their beliefs differ to mine.

I am done with the mass unconsciousness that judges others because of the colour of their skin, their religious beliefs, and what they do with their genitals.

I am done with that which does not align with love.

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My Truth

I grew up in a Charismanic church of hell fire and brimstone.

I was brainwashed to believe that all sinners, with special emphasis on those wretched evil homosexuals, – the abominations – were on a super highway to hell where they all deserved to burn and rot – as they should!

For years, I was in torment about something within myself that felt so wrong and yet left me seeking and knowing that if I just found out what it was, it would be so right…

When I finally decided to stop tormenting myself and discover if I was an abomination or not I was very surprised to discover that there was no separation from the love of god for me, contrary to my indoctrination.

In fact, what I discovered and continue to discover was a greater love and acceptance of myself.  By practising self-love religiously, I have become closer to God, who is definitely a woman of multiple talents and impossibilities.  Having said that, I have also gotten over my need to define what god is.

The God within me requests that I do not separate myself from it and in doing so, sin.

The God within me requires that the love I give to myself I give to others.

The God within me demands that I make no claims of understanding the god within me and limiting it to my tiny vain human imagination with absolutes and declarations of beliefs.

The God within me expects me to shut the fuck up and live my life as I see fit and allow others to do the same, and try not hating them for their own “truths.”

The God within me expects me to BE love

The God within me expects me to LIVE love

The God within me expects me to SPEAK love

And when I fail and fall and fuck up I will get up, brush myself off, understand a little better while continuing to press on towards the love which is in me, around me and within us all.

Your Truth

I do not know what your truth is.

I have not walked in your shoes, faced your trials, and learned your lessons.

I may know you or you may be a stranger to me, whatever our status I would be happy if you sought your truth and lived it.  Even if it is, a truth, that is diametrically opposed to mine.

To all those who cannot tolerate or accept my truth, I very politely and lovingly invite you to fuck off.  Don’t be my family, don’t be my friend, and don’t be my fan or my follower.  If you can’t respect my unique choices and allow me the same freedom I allow you, I am not open to listening to your noise.

I am done.

My life is too precious for the contamination of hatred.  My potential is too vast for small-minded confinement.  My time too limited for wastage on non-loving endeavours.

I am human, I am love. And so are you! Everybody’s got a pulse.


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Practice Stillness

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The importance of stillness

Why is it important to practice stillness you may ask.  It is because we live frenetic lives.  We have things going on constantly, experience relentless pressure are continuously bombarded by things wanting to grab our attention and distract us from who we are or how we are meant to be.

How we are meant to be

Well I think we are meant to be peaceful, happy beings.  This is not the reality for most of us and many times the things around us come and steal our peace or happiness, or we allow them to be stolen from us.  This is why the practice of stillness is so critical to our overall wellbeing.

Being still does not mean don’t move.  It means move in peace ― E’yen A. Gardner

The advantages of practicing stillness

There are multiple advantages to practice stillness, here is a few:

  1. It centres you and helps you focus on the present moment
  2. It recharges your batteries and leaves you feeling vitalised and refreshed
  3. It reduces your stress and brings you to peace
  4. It allows you to see new perspectives, especially if you are facing difficult challenges
  5. It reduces your risk of illness

To practice stillness does not come naturally or easily to us and in a hectic busy world; most people neglect to make time to practice stillness.  Yes, we do need to make time to practice stillness, believe it or not.

Make the time, create the space

Let me tell you about one of my favourite places I go to practice stillness in the forest near my home.  There are two ways to reach this spot; one is up a slight hill, and down a steep descent and the other meanders along a forest brook covered by trees.  Both pathways are distinctly different but equally delightful.  My favourite place is a wooden bench nestled next to a beautiful pond with water flowing through it.  In autumn and winter, the underbrush dies and the view of the surrounding forest becomes clearer.  The sound of the flowing water seems crisper but only because the birds are hibernating and their vivacious songs do not add to the melody of the stream.

When I come to this spot and find the forest empty of other human inhabitants, I always feel blessed.  The stillness of nature embraces me and I feel my inner stillness rise up to commune with it.  Regardless of what I have going on in my life or mind, I find myself becoming peaceful, at one with nature.

Maybe you are not familiar with the practice of stillness.  To be still means to do nothing.  Not pray, problem solve or plan, it means simply to do no thing.

When you enter a place of stillness, you awaken the divinity within you ― Peggy Sealfon

How I practice stillness

Believe it or not doing nothing or no thing requires focus.  Especially if the mind is frantic, so what I tend to do is to sit quietly and watch my breath, close my eyes and watch my breath coming in and going out.  Sometimes I say this simple mantra while becoming focused, “Breathe in, breathe out.”  This enables me to come to a place of quietness and peacefulness.  I know I said the practice of stillness is to do nothing and this might seem like a contradiction, but until my mind has stilled I need to bring it into submission and this is how I do it.

Be still.  Stillness reveals the secrets of eternity ― Lao Tzu

If you want to experience the five advantages of practicing stillness that I mentioned above, I encourage you to start your practice today.

You will find that your life expands in peacefulness and contentment and regardless of the challenges you face you will be able to rise up and meet them.

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What My Favourite Superstar Taught Me

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It was 11 May 2016 and I left home in the early afternoon to drive 270km to Hamburg to a pop concert.  We had purchased the tickets five months in advance and were excited to be finally underway.  We considered ourselves most fortunate to have tickets and were even prepared to travel to other European cities to see this artist in concert.

Promptly at 8pm the auditorium became dark, the closed eyes on the screen opened and an echoing “Hellooooo” resonated through the hall.  We the excited audience yelled back HELLO.  The eyes opened and closed again followed by another echoing “Hellooooo.”  The audience went crazy when the spot light fell on the small diamond shape stage in the middle of the auditorium and up she came singing 13226698_10154126100834029_6801430981458812143_n

Hello, it’s me
I was wondering if after all these years you’d like to meet

During the song, she made her way through the crowds to the main stage and belted out three quick songs in succession without engaging with the audience.  However, the audience exploded during Hometown Glory when the most amazing aerial visuals of Hamburg appeared on the screen.  Finishing the song she yelled “Hello Hamburg, how the fuck are you?”

Adele was in the house!

Let me be honest I am a fan and have been since her first album.  I love her music and found myself saying in between the release of Skyfall and her last album, “Where is she?  I wish she would give us more music.”  I had a few impressions of what she might be like as a performer and can’t assume to know what she might be like as a person but after seeing her live in concert I was really challenged once again just to be myself and pursue those things I love doing.

Within moments of Adele engaging with her fans, she had each of the 20000 strong crowd eating from the palm of her hand.  If she commanded us to strip naked and does the Macarena, I am sure we would have all complied.

Apart from being uplifted and transported by that incredible voice of hers it was her absolute authenticity struck me the most.  Three things about her struck me deeply and challenged me once again about my own life.

Be yourself, always

I am not claiming to know Adele but what struck me deeply is that she is a hundred percent herself.  Apart from that incredible voice of hers, I think what draws fans to her, is her unashamed willingness to be who she is.

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Video of Adele singing “One and Only”

In terms of entertaining her fans, she doesn’t try to imitate Beyoncé or Lady Gaga with all the theatrics and show elements, she is simply Adele.  She plays to her strengths, which is her authenticity and voice.

She is outspoken, swears like a trooper, acts like a goof ball and is unaffected by that thing called fame.  I wondered how Adele could be so unabashedly authentic when I realised she is

Not scared to show vulnerability

We all know she makes a living singing about her heartbreaks and recoveries.  Each of us can listen to her music and identify with a heartache and recovery; however, she does not seem scared to show her vulnerability.

The thing is in our society we are not encouraged to show our vulnerability and if we do, it is often used against us.  We create walls and impenetrable barriers that keep us from being injured or allowing others in, but is this a “normal” way of being?  Vulnerability researcher and expert Brené Brown suggests that if we were capable of expressing our vulnerability, we would be happier individuals and societies.

When we look at a superstar like Adele she seems to let it all hang out, She has shown us that she was broken, but she got up again.  She openly admits to being a drama queen and perhaps over exaggerating her heartbreaks but this is what adds to her charm.  She shows that it is possible to be broken, recover, and continue to have a fruitful life because I think she

Doesn’t take life too seriously

Along with her authenticity and vulnerability, she has a healthy sense of humour and doesn’t take fame or life too adele singingseriously.  She is able to laugh at herself and then move on with her life.

I think that sometimes we make things in our lives more complicated than they need to be and take things to seriously.  After all, we are all going to die.  We know they end of the story, not when or how it will be, but this is The End nevertheless.  Considering that we know this crucial detail I wonder what would happen if we simply allow ourselves to be whom we are, have fun and not take things too seriously.  You know we could say that it is easier to laugh things off when we are rich or famous but the truth is everyone has their problems that are relevant to their life.  We cannot compare the problems in our lives and say mine is more important or traumatic than yours or yours are less important than mine are.  As long as we are caught up in the story of our lives, our narrative is important to us, so what would happen if we allowed ourselves to relax into this thing called life, make the most out of it, and enjoy it until the curtain falls?


I don’t make a habit of idolising others or placing them on pedestals because I know we are all made of dust and to dust we shall return, but I do love it when someone I admire challenges me by their example to make the most out of my life.

I left this concert with a stronger conviction to be myself, allow myself to show vulnerability and not to take things to seriously.  I hope that I will be able to remember these aspirations and live by these principles.  I am sure I will forget and fall down in a million ways, but I hope to get up stronger than before and keep on living my best life each day.  What about you?  Will you join me?[/fusion_text]

Let Go of Limiting Beliefs

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So what are your beliefs regarding yourself and your ability to have the life you want?  Do you belive it is possible, or do you believe that good things never happen to you?  What are your beliefs around relationships and love?  Do you believe you are worthy of love and can have a loving, intimate relationship or is this only true in movies?  How about money and prosperity?  Do you believe that you are prosperous and can create your own wealth or are you poverty stricken in your thinking?

The fact is we all have limiting beliefs about various aspects of our lives; the challenge is to change them or to let them go.  After years of thinking in a certain way, this is never easy and I wonder if a good place to start is through surrendering, or letting go.  We hold onto our beliefs so tightly because they form part of our identity, but this clinging adds no value to our long-term prosperity.

Recently I remembered a time in my life where I had to surrender limiting beliefs, which I would like to share with you.

A personal story

I was between jobs when I went for an interview with two companies on the same day.  The first interview was 9 o’clock in the morning and I really, really, really wanted to work for that company. I felt so good about the interview and the whole experience and the position had every aspect that I seeking in a job.

The second interview at 3 o’clock in the afternoon was also with a very good company but my interviewer spoke so long that we were locked in the building with no means of escape.  We had to climb out the second floor window and shimmy down the drainpipe to reach the ground floor.  I was wearing a skirt!  I have never had to leave a building before or after in such an exciting manner and strangely enough, I don’t know why, but I was not offered the job.

A week after the interview the first company informed me that I was unsuccessful.  I really believed I had the job and as you can imagine I felt devastated and was heartbroken.  I decided to visit my parents for a month and during the time I worked on letting go of the pain that I was feeling and the disappointment and picking myself up and putting myself back together again.

You might be thinking, oh this is no big deal, it is only a job but what was at stake was my self-belief.  My confidence had taken a knock; I felt that I could not trust my intuition as intuitively it felt it had been a brilliant interview, and I experienced huge self-doubt, was I doing the right things in my life.  I remember spending much time praying and asking God to help me to let go and to start looking forward and to hold on to hope, that something else better would come up.

When I returned to my home in Johannesburg, it was under strange circumstances.  The aeroplane could not land due to bad weather; we were diverted and complete the journey the next morning.  When I landed in Johannesburg, a friend greeted me saying, “You got a phone call from this company. They want you to call them as soon as possible.”  It was the company from the first interview.  When I returned the call, they informed me that the situation had changed. The person they offered the job to rescinded their offer and they wondered if I would you be willing to go for another interview.  I went the next day and the job was mine.

What I learnt

During that time of disappointment and pain, I had to surrender the situation and let it go.  I realised that it was beyond my control but what was within my control was how I thought and what I chose to believe.

There was no way of predicting the outcome but I could prevent limiting beliefs from taking root and changing my future perspective.  I learnt not to sacrifice my self-worth over circumstances beyond my control.  I learnt that not attaching myself to a specific outcome but hoping for a good one allows for more flow within my life.  I learnt that rejection or no in one specific area of my life does not mean rejection for who I am as a person.

I learnt not to create a foundation for new limiting beliefs based on one set back.

My Challenge to you

As mentioned, we all have limiting beliefs.  Take a moment to think of the various areas of your life such as your relationships, work, spirituality, health, finances etc.  What beliefs do you have around these areas of your life?  How are they enabling you to grow and prosper, or how are your limiting beliefs hindering you.

Write down your greatest limiting belief. Ask yourself if it is 100% true or is there another way to look at that belief.  Can you surrender it and what belief would you like to replace it with?

We don’t always let go of our beliefs instantly, but allow yourself time to work through these areas, to surrender and start establishing new beliefs for yourself.

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